Our Actions Define Us

For those who’ve read posts from in the past, it is probably clear that we tend to stay focused on talking about our travel experiences, food, and sharing some of our photography, not on current events or politics. With that said, we felt compelled to say at least something about the horrific and brutal attack in Nice, France, and our thoughts about travel in these uncertain times.  First of all, our thoughts and prayers go out to all of the people and families affected by this senseless violence as well as the other recent tragedies.  We’re not going to talk about the political and social causes that drive people to do such unimaginable acts because we don’t consider ourselves experts on those subjects, although we do have some pretty strong opinions on the subject.

Eiffel Tower at Sunset
Paris Neighborhood
Notre Dame

What we’d like to talk about is staying strong in the face of such uneasiness and uncertainty.  Terror is about trying to cause paralysis and inaction due to fear.  If we stop travelling, stop going to events with large crowds, visiting places considered to be “soft targets”, we give in to terror.  Unfortunately in this day and age, terror can happen anyplace.  France has certainly seen more than its fair share of violence perpetrated by terrorists.  Would we travel to France right now?  Absolutely and we hope to very soon.  There are things that are beyond our control, but what we can control is our desire to not let evil deeds such as last night’s attack keep us from continuing to live our lives as fully and optimistically as we always have.

Eiffel Tower
Palace at Versailles
Arc du Carroussel

Eventually, the good in people will win out in the end, but clearly there are going to be many more dark days ahead.  In light of that, we will do our best to move forward resolutely determined not to let violence deter us.  Will we be more aware of our surroundings, watchful of potential threats?  Of course, but that is just common sense.  So, today we reflect on the events in France with a strong commitment to not let them change the way that we live our lives.  We believe that most people have very similar feelings and in that way we let our actions tell the terrorists that no amount of violence will change the world into the world that they are trying to create.  In fact, the complete opposite is occurring and they are uniting the world against them instead of causing us to run in fear of them.

One More Eiffel Tower Photo

 

Words of Wisdom

We have been fortunate to have had many great mentors throughout our lives who have imparted words of wisdom to us that have molded our thoughts and actions.  Most of the best advice that we’ve received apply to all parts of our lives, whether with family, work, or travelling.  Usually they are amazingly simple and yet very powerful when applied consistently.  With this week’s Discover Challenge – Piece of Advice, we decided not to share a single piece of advice that we’ve received, but instead we’ve listed our top five words of wisdom and specifically how they’ve related to our travels.  Hopefully you’ll find them to be as useful over time as we have found them to be.

  1. Treat others as you want to be treated (the golden rule) – Wouldn’t the world be a better place if we treated EVERYONE that we met in the same manner that we hope and expect to be treated.  Sure, we learned this rule as children, but it is probably the most important piece of advice that hopefully all people can learn.  Whenever we travel someplace, anyplace, we want to learn about the customs and traditions of the locals.  We respect their religions, beliefs, and social expectations.  Having an understanding and respect does not mean that you have agree with or do things that conflict with your own personal beliefs, but you must have empathy and understand where they are coming from.  You would be surprised how much better your experience will be if you are friendly and honestly express your desire to understand the culture of the place that you are visiting.

    Talking to an Old Woman in Bolivia
  2. Make decisions quickly and act upon them – This doesn’t mean that you don’t do your due diligence and get as many facts as possible before making a decision, but too often people become paralyzed by fear of making a mistake or spend so much time thinking about the decision that the opportunity passes them by.  We have a lot of military in our family and the motto for an officer on the battlefield is that the only bad decision is no decision, this is surprisingly true of life in general.  Will this lead to some mistakes?  Sure, but you don’t grow and learn without making a few mistakes.  More often than not, just deciding to go someplace and making it happen has led to some of our best experiences.  If you wait for all of the stars to align and the moment to be perfect, you’re likely to miss out on some of the best experiences of your life.

    Our First Trip to Europe was Planned in a Few Weeks
  3. Never stop learning – Learning is growth and the moment that you stop learning new and interesting things is the moment that you stop truly living.  Obviously it is hard to go through life and not continue to learn new things, but don’t just learn through osmosis, actively seek out and find new things to learn that might interest you.  Pick a country that you’ve never heard about and learn as much as you can and then go visit there.  Understand the history of a place, what has influenced its culture, the leaders of the past and the regional forces that shape their current beliefs and society.  Learn as much of the language as possible and use it when you visit.

    We’ve Learned to be Better Travelers
  4. Strive for continuous improvement – None of us are perfect and those people who think that they are should be avoided like the plague.  In all aspects of life, we periodically seriously reflect on our current state and consider how we can improve in our relationships, work positions, health (mental and physical), as well as our travel goals and expectations.  Even during our travels, we will ask ourselves if we’re seeing the most relevant and interesting sights that mean the most to us or are we just following a list from a guidebook?  Are we talking to the locals and getting the best advice on places to see and food to eat?  We’ll come home from a trip and talk about our experiences and what things we could have done better and use that information on our next trip.

    Lunch at a Moroccan Restaurant
  5. Step out of your comfort zone – It is easy to get complacent and accept the normal routine, whether at work or in your personal life, but some of the most rewarding opportunities come from pushing your limits.  That might mean doing an activity that makes you uncomfortable, like zip-lining, parachuting, or just spending the night in a forest.  We’re not suggesting that you pursue dangerous activities, but just that you try something that perhaps you’ve never previously considered.  It might be going to a country that makes you uncomfortable, but it could be as simple as trying food that you’ve never heard of.  Growth comes from new experiences that most likely reset your image of what you’re capable of doing or achieving.

    India Definitely Stretched Our Boundaries

There isn’t anything earth shattering here, just simple concepts that, when followed consistently, will improve your life and our case, our travels as well.

Daily Post Photo Challenge – Numbers

Oddly enough, we don’t take a lot of photos while we’re travelling that contain numbers. The one exception to that seems to be clock towers, whether on churches or government buildings, there are several of those to choose from.  For this week’s challenge, numbers, we found this picture from one of the bedrooms in Versailles that had an ornate clock on the mantelpiece.  It captures the ornate detail of the opulent rooms, although we’re not sure if the clock actually works.

Bedroom at Versailles with Ornate Clock